Learning to Tie Your Shoe & Enjoy the Moment

“Goodbye keeps us young, Dwelling on the past propels us into the future, into aging, into decrepitude (dope word*), and pain and bitterness and blame and complaining.” -James Altucher.

The ‘what ifs’, ‘I wish thats’ and ‘only ifs’ of your past are downright thieves. They creep into your mind and steal the piece of yourself that was supposed to be fully engaged in the beautiful unknown that the present moment continuously offers.

Coming to grips with your past is a learned skill unique to each of its owners. It isn’t a course that every person is taught in high school, nor do they sell its magic formula on an infomercial (wouldn’t doubt it, I just have yet to see one.) Accepting your past for what it was is a tall order that requires making the mistake of losing your present moment multiple times..think of it like learning to tie your shoe as a kid. The only way you perfected your personal knot is by your shoe coming untied over and over again. Until finally the changes you made in how it was tied perfected your knot so you were able to roam around the playground, worryless about your damn shoestrings and focused on the moment at hand.

While I may not have yet perfected the knot of my past, I have tied in a way that allows me to not think twice about it once it is complete. I am now enthusiastically enjoying this one of a kind present moment. I encourage you to do the same : )

Create & Be Real fellow Earthlings,

Danny

5 Quick & Real Tips for 20’somethings who want to Build a Valuable Network

Just two years out of college, I want nothing more than to empower fellow Gen-Y entrepreneurs who either took the college route or skipped that sh*t entirely. I hope you all can learn from my successes and failures (plenty more of the latter)!

*Note: I’m an entrepreneur, not a novelist (yet). This article wasn’t edited to make the New York Times. This article was created to actually relate with its readers with no bullshit, all thoughtful and real advice.

Create & Be Real,

Danny

Lets get started!

In the game of business, there is arguably no better head start you can give yourself than establishing a valuable network while in your 20s. Here are 5 real tips I, along with many of my most successful friends have used and come to learn the hard way to build our networks through events and everyday life:

Steps:

  • 1. There’s no such thing as winging it! Have an idea! If you’re going to an event that presents an opportunity to build your network, do some research about the event topic(s) as well as about who will be attending. If you’re attending a tech summit or meet-up and know nothing about tech nor have any involvement in the industry, don’t disappoint yourself by having unrealistic expectations of doing anything more than learning the basics of the industry (which is totally fine—you’ve gotta start somewhere). Proper preparation leads to credible confidence.
  • 2. Be ready to listen and STFU. Especially for young entrepreneurs, the number one way for you to lose hope of gaining a quality connection within your field is by not shutting the f*ck up when engaging with a senior entrepreneur (been there, done that). I understand you want nothing more than to prove your recently acquired knowledge and innovative ideas, but the best way of going about this is being an outstanding, active listener. Genuinely absorb the thoughts of the person you are speaking with and respond only when they have finished and you have something of substance to say…which dovetails in to step 3.
  • 3. “Fortune favours the bold.” I know we’ve all heard this Latin proverb. In fact, I am a devout advocate and believer of its meaning. So let’s understand how you can be a beneficiary of this secret…Being bold is typically a low-risk, high-growth potential investment. Put yourself in a position to succeed at the highest level (in this case, collect the highest return possible from being bold) by speaking with substance. No one wants to waste their limited active-listening tank on empty ideas or opinions, especially from someone younger than them! Deliver your ideas and contributions in a thoughtful, organic and supported manner. Site a source and establish credibility by using a line as simple as, “I’ve conducted research on this matter and was surprised/pleased/displeased/astonished by finding out…”
  • 4. Always assume you’re going to get called out. Hopefully, the last business book you read touched on the importance of contingency planning for the longevity of a company. Well, it’s just as important for the longevity of your personal credibility! Always assume some asswipe is going to question you on your sources in an attempt to strip you down to the inexperienced, uneducated and in-over-your-head wannabe they ideally want you to be. Let these f*ckers dig their own graves by always having credible support for your opinions and claims.
  • 5. Enjoy the opportunity and rise to the occasion! Networking events, such as seminars, lectures, meet-ups, conferences, etc., provide a great potential return on your investment of time and money. It’s ultimately up to you to extract the most value possible (as is the life of an entrepreneur). Have fun, smile and be well versed and read on a topic/subject/industry if you plan on expressing your thoughts. Sometimes, speaking on a topic is not the best way to go about things, so listen! Take in the advice from surrounding experts, go home and make it your own! From that point, you can enable yourself to speak on the matter at any time and to any person moving forward!

Enjoy the ride, fellow Gen-Y’trepreneurs. Let’s do dope sh*t together and continue to improve this planet and universe!

Feel free to drop me a line in the comments and/or send me a personal message. I would love to hear any ideas or questions you have about this topic or similar ones!

Create & Be Real,

Danny

Why Parents need to actually THINK before telling their kids to ‘Get a job, now!’

Ever been the victim of a one-sided rant that begins & ends with you being told by an elder/parent to ‘get a job, right now! I don’t care, go get a job!..blah blah blah’

While I can empathize with the true intentions of the ranter are (hopefully) looking out for your best interest, their advice is shit. Since when does an unsupported claim that just so happens to be slapped across your face have any sort of credibility? Next time mom gets on her high-horse and rides you about needing to get a job immediately, ask her one simple question, “What job should I get?”

Posing this question will begin to crack open the door of logical thinking and a real, valuable 2 way street conversation is now a possibility (but not a guarantee!)

If whoever the ranter is feels the responsibility to tell you how to spend the majority of your life (by getting a J.O.B) this entails not only where you’ll be living, but also what you’ll be forced to do, who you’ll be allowed to spend time with & how much money you’re going to make(all of the consequences of having a typical 9-5 job.) They better have a great fucking idea of what the Job is that they’re so adamant about you getting!

Always question brief claims, start with a simple & non-confrontational ‘Why?’

I would love to hear stories about personal experiences you’ve had that relate to this topic!

Stay strong my fellow LifeStylers.

Create & BeReal,

Danny

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The Race between Rats or Sheep, whichever you prefer

As I recently turned the pivotal age of 25, I zoomed out and took a look at society from space. What I saw has the potential to be a beautiful paradise or rugged and confining cell.
“Emancipate yourselves from mental slavery, none but ourselves can free our minds!” Bob Marley.
There is a growing misconception among American citizens, one that emphasizes a location-locked life where truly dope ass experiences are put on the back burner or as most people put it “This isn’t a good time, let’s do it next year…”
As I conclude my concise article, following the theme of Simplicity>Bullshit, it is damn near mandatory that you zoom out and look at your life from space. What do you really spend your time doing? Break down each hour of every day…what are you thinking about, who are you with, how are you feeling, what are you working towards?
The debunking of America’s 9 to 5 mentality simply lies in your answers to those questions, but don’t rely on anyone to do this for you, the system doesn’t support Free-thinkers like yourself.

Create & Be Real,

Danny

Woke up in a shitty mood thanks to your current bubble? Listening to a 25 year old just to much to ask of yourself? Don’t worry, I get it!
Then take it from Mr.Chaplin : )

DREAM motivation.

D.R.E.A.M

Daily Realization of Everything and More!

One of the greatest all around life coaches and motivators of our time, Zig Ziglar relates the tool of motivation to bathing, claiming that both should be daily activities.

“People often say that motivation doesn’t last. Well, neither does bathing – that’s why we recommend it daily.”

Here is a short vid that will adhear to Zig’s advice by fulfilling your days motivation, Engage and Enjoy!

-Passion